The morning ritual remains the same wherever I am – turn on BBC Radio 4 and make coffee. A thirty something woman is saying she wishes she could go back in time and give her bulimic/self harming/laxative addicted young self a hug and tell her how beautiful she is, and how there was no need for all that self-loathing. Yesterday I was flicking through old issues of The Sunday Times Style magazine – June 2017 is all about fun in the sun with a colourful photo of what looks like two thirteen year old girls in bright swimwear accompanying a piece about what we adults should be wearing on the beach this summer.
Next up; “The Changing Shape of me – from size 8 twenty something to size 18 mother.” Thankfully a more uplifting story, but still riddled with angst. Next headline; “Fail at breastfeeding” – a woman recalls the overwhelming pressure to be a perfect mother in those first few weeks following giving birth, because she couldn’t produce enough milk. Over the page an M&S advertisement inviting you to “hang up, your hang ups”, whilst wearing their slimming swimwear. All your insecurities fed off and into by the media, will momentarily vanish as you jump off that rock in your fuchsia pink (rather lush) swimming costume….as if.
I decide to gloss over the killer teens headline article and the young people claiming that Harry Potter saved their lives…..I have a quick scan of India Knight telling me it’s ok to put my life before a career – thanks for that positive affirmation India. All these mixed messages and my coffee hasn’t even cooled down enough to drink yet…Bugger it. I’m stripping off to bake my 61 year old bones in the glorious sun – stretch marks, bingo wings, gaping pores n all. It’s more life-affirming than the media, despite the skin ageing/cancer risk. At least my vitamin d levels will be topped up….
I spent ages painfully translating the articles and I found the content more uplifting and refreshing than all the English magazines I’ve been trawling whilst out here in the French countryside…On the cover is a well groomed but ‘normal’ looking sixty year old French woman. The main tagline is: Le bonheur commence apres 50 ans! With not a plastic surgery story in sight, it concentrates on the personal individual attempt to attain well being and happiness in all areas of life. We should be taking a lesson from their format…. Which has given me (via my man and yet more coffee) a brainstorming, fizzing idea – YAY – a positive from initially negative train of thought….A stylish Magazine aimed at the 40 plus market….Watch this space!
Meeting up at events and embarking on new friendships is enriching, entertaining, questioning, challenging and FUN. Proving It is never to late to meet new people play/work wise and experience new adventures – some of them life-changing catalysts.