We are excited to post this interesting insightful article by an exciting new addition to the Goldie Magazine team: Carol Pearson, who we hope will become a regular contributor. She brings a wealth of life experience and wisdom to her writing, so if you have ideas for things you would like to see her address in her column, please get in touch.
♥Growing older brings changes on many levels: physical, relationships, professional and psychological. Often, we’re not ready for this change. When I was faced with my own career transformation I found it helpful to learn about the evolution of change, and know that there are 3 steps in the change process:
Change usually starts with an ending or loss of something (divorce or separation, redundancy, declining health and vitality, identity, motivation, etc.). Often, we see this as a disaster and wonder how we’re going to survive and carry on with our lives.
For most, the next step in the change process is a period of transition, a confusing time when we don’t know what we will do next. It’s a period of introspection and of letting go of the past and what occurred. When you’re in the transition period, long or short, life can be difficult, uncertain, lonely and scary.
Finally, we find a way forward and we can get on with the next phase of life. We feel renewed energy and enthusiasm. We might look back and feel grateful for whatever happened that made the change happen, because something better has resulted.
♥ My own experience with change includes leaving the comfort blanket of my international corporate career, which had been my identity for so many years. This was a time when I experienced fear and uncertainty and questioned what I could do in the future. My transition was a period of study, experimentation and testing ideas to work out exactly what I would do next. I started to disconnect from my corporate identity and discover the real me. I trusted my intuition and energy and in time found my new beginning which was to set up my coaching business helping midlife women (and men) to thrive. Now I can say that I’m so grateful for the change that happened in my life and I’ve never felt happier.
♥We hear the phrase “embrace change”, but what does it really mean? Embracing change is to accept it willingly & enthusiastically. It’s easy to say (especially to other people), yet often hard to do when you are in the middle of it. I’ve a great deal of experience both helping others embrace change and embracing it myself and I’m happy to share some ways to make it easier with you.
My tips for embracing change:
Mindset: Find the upside of situations, see difficulties as challenges and opportunities
Gratitude: Don’t focus on what you’ve lost. Each day list the things that are grateful for. Actually list them, on paper.
Compassion: Be kind to yourself, treat yourself as you would a close friend.
Self-Care: Take care of yourself: healthy diet, exercise, get enough sleep. It’s tempting to overindulge in food and alcohol when we’re not feeling great but it will impact your emotions, confidence and decision making.
Vision: Create a vision for your future, even if you’re not sure what you’re going to be doing. Image the sort of life you want to lead. Consider creating a vision board.
Challenge negative thoughts: Stop speaking or thinking negatively about yourself. Instead of saying “I can’t do this” say “I know I’ll find a way”.
Get support: Share concerns and feelings with a supportive friend to get perspective. Talking it through may make the challenge seem more manageable.
♥In future articles in this column I’ll expand on these tips, address different aspects of ageing and provide strategies and guidance to navigate through them, to transform and enrich the second half of life. I am looking forward to connecting with you.
I’m an accredited coach, workshop facilitator, speaker, clinical hypnotherapist and the founder of Midlife Women, a coaching practice dedicated to helping women (and men) embrace change, build confidence, and experience a happy and meaningful second half of life.
I didn’t have a midlife crisis but I did have a “midlife awakening” in my mid 50”s: a realisation that I wanted to create a different lifestyle for my next 50 years. For me, this means pursuing my passion of coaching clients and seeing them get results.
I love working with women and men of all ages, but I’m particularly committed to working with women in midlife, helping them to enrich their lives and follow their dreams. I work face-to-face or remotely using Skype and Zoom.
Before becoming a coach, my international corporate career allowed me to live in Sydney, San Francisco and New York for more than 20 years. I’m now based in London, where I juggle my passion for international travel and exploring different cultures with work, meeting clients and catching up with friends.